I've read about this before but I not buying it. I think someone is pushing an agenda with this "explanation" because it is a defeatist stance.
The strongest stallions getting all the women while everyone else is stuck with their VR girlfriends. Totally not a thing on a global scale because we are getting more and more. No, don't cite me aging population stats. They may be real but the math doesn't work out with your 30%
I will say this is the experience of myself (male) and the men I know in the bay area.
Those of us with the right combination of desirable traits have a choice of partners, scheduling a few dates a week with attractive women is no big deal if you're in that group. Conversely, my friends without such a combination struggle to get a date at all even if they trying to date "down" or "at their level" (I recognize these are crude terms, not sure how else to express the idea). Most of these men are pleasant and have decent jobs but they appear to fall below some line where they're considered for dating unless things evolve very naturally within a longer platonic relationship.
My understanding is that this is largely the reality already in the dating marketplaces we can measure (dating apps). At least every study with dating app data I have seen shows a small minority of men get the vast majority of female attention.
When I brought up the argument I had in mind a case based on income inequality, that some rich guy was able to support 3 women, something that you'd imagine was the case in the time when my namesake and his followers codified Christian ideas of monogamy.
There are many young people today who believe there is also an inequality of attractiveness at work which is, I think, a newer concern.
Are you sure about that? Involuntary celibacy actually predates all of these ideologies. The phenomenon was identified in the late 90s, by a female researcher no less.
It seems to me these ideologies are just an attempt to make sense of the suffering.
And they impact you even if you are "married with children"
One of my son's friends fell under the spell of an incel preacher who goes as "Wheat Waffles". He refuses to hang out with my son because my son is taller and more handsome and thus inevitably "mogs" him.
Waffles is running a pernicious cult complete with a catechism and what I saw looks a lot like Scientology disconnection.
The strongest stallions getting all the women while everyone else is stuck with their VR girlfriends. Totally not a thing on a global scale because we are getting more and more. No, don't cite me aging population stats. They may be real but the math doesn't work out with your 30%